KumquatWriter

Wife. Mother. Skeptic. Atheist. Smartass.

Out Of Context
A blog about motherhood, marriage, life, secular cults, Atheism, family, Hollywood, Movies, Sesame Street, sanity, insanity and ADHD.

http://kumquatwriter.wordpress.com

Off The Rails
History and discussion of my life in a fandom-based cult of personality lead by Andy Blake (andythanfiction). It's a crazy train with no caboose, and you just can't stop looking.

All content copyright 2007-2014 Abbey Willson/KumquatWriter. Any correspondence may be published in whole or in part at my sole discretion unless specified as private. I do not delete comments unless requested by the author. I will make fun of your hate mail. Please be respectful with your pronouns and only refer to Andrew Blake/Thanfiction with male or neutral language.

delwynmarch:

kumquatwriter:

delwynmarch:

kumquatwriter:

Sound familiar?

Oho, careful!

Wherever you see the name “Sam Vaknin”, walk very, very carefully. He’s a very well-known, but also very controversial figure in the NPD community. He is a proud, self-proclaimed Narcissist, which means that by definition his word cannot be 100% trusted, because:

- either he’s truly a Narcissist, and then he’s out to make himself look as good as he can (note for example the numerous attempts at woobiefication in the article)

- or he’s not a Narcissist, in which case the consensus is that he’s most likely some kind of sociopath out to mess with people’s heads purely for shits and giggles.

The biggest problem with what he writes is that 95-99% of it is congruent with both the research and people’s experiences with NPD. But that 1-5% messes everything up (see, again, woobiefication).

So while Vaknin is a relatively easy way to get an understanding of what Narcissism is, he’s also a treacherous one. Walk carefully.

Wow, that’s interesting! Thanks for the clarification, Del. I haven’t done anything approaching the research on NPD specifically that you have.

Aside from Andy, my experience comes from family members with NPD (particularly my grandmother, who helped raise me but wasn’t as abusive) and from therapists. So very good to know if a source is suspect.

So much for being just an echo chamber.

Of course it’s not an echo chamber: it’s me trying to set myself as The Ultimate Authority on all things NPD ;) Even when a self-described Narcissist explains himself, it’s still not good enough for me :P So you should be careful, Abbey: you’re falling under my spell just like you fell under Andy’s spell!

Of course, I would be just a likely to say the above if I were trying to fool you…

Welcome Back to Mindscrew World =_=

Ick. Tumblr needs a “dislike” option :P

delwynmarch:

kumquatwriter:

Sound familiar?

Oho, careful!

Wherever you see the name “Sam Vaknin”, walk very, very carefully. He’s a very well-known, but also very controversial figure in the NPD community. He is a proud, self-proclaimed Narcissist, which means that by definition his word cannot be 100% trusted, because:

- either he’s truly a Narcissist, and then he’s out to make himself look as good as he can (note for example the numerous attempts at woobiefication in the article)

- or he’s not a Narcissist, in which case the consensus is that he’s most likely some kind of sociopath out to mess with people’s heads purely for shits and giggles.

The biggest problem with what he writes is that 95-99% of it is congruent with both the research and people’s experiences with NPD. But that 1-5% messes everything up (see, again, woobiefication).

So while Vaknin is a relatively easy way to get an understanding of what Narcissism is, he’s also a treacherous one. Walk carefully.

Wow, that’s interesting! Thanks for the clarification, Del. I haven’t done anything approaching the research on NPD specifically that you have.

Aside from Andy, my experience comes from family members with NPD (particularly my grandmother, who helped raise me but wasn’t as abusive) and from therapists. So very good to know if a source is suspect.

So much for being just an echo chamber.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
I realize this is one among many "how did nobody…" but how did nobody ever question that "Victoria Bitter" is a popular Australian beer? It's like calling yourself Stella Artois.
kumquatwriter kumquatwriter Said:

He was open that he chose Victoria Bitter after the beer - claimed he wanted a non star trek handle for his newer fandom and that allowed him to keep using the short version VB.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Re: Andy's ridiculous form letter-- one thing he claims that stuck out to me was that the Andy Blake identity was "No movie stars this time, no big deal, just a drifting ‘actor, writer, jack-of-all-trades’ with a mysterious past he wouldn’t talk about." You've mentioned in the past that there was a connection between that identity and Orlando Bloom at the beginning-- in other words, once again, it couldn't be more obvious that this letter is just desperate spin on his part.
kumquatwriter kumquatwriter Said:

Now now, to be fair, it’s the name Andy that was short for Orlando.

Right before I left, Orlando vacated the mindhole - apparently he “merged” with the real Orlando Bloom (although when “Jordan-the-dupilicate-Elijah” left, he “died” and became a “ghost” who periodically made appearances later on).

He became “Zack” who was a transplant from alternate 1944 who had some X - men abilities and a suspiciously familiar woobie background.

But he kept the name Andy (short for Orlando) Blake (short for Blakewell, the “real” surname of the Pevensie children who were the “real” children who lived with C.S. Lewis during WWII)

Is it any wonder I had a palm pilot to keep track of all this? Oh, and Andy’s estimation of “about 80” Others was off by half. There were about 160.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
My favourite find from Andy's website back when he was Voyagerbabe/VB/Victoria Bitter is in the guestbook where his sockpuppet co-writer left a message: reocities[.]com/Area51/Starship/6102/geobook[.]html "Strwriter - 01/16/99 Nice to see you're getting so many hits, Vbabe! I'll pop back for more soon!" Sadly Strwriter's webpage appears to be lost to time. But it's another example of Andy pretending to be someone other than he really was for attention BEFORE he became mentally ill.
kumquatwriter kumquatwriter Said:

delwynmarch:

And the email used by Strwriter is player@widomaker.com so we get the connection to Amy Player as well. Heh.

There’s quite a wealth of documentation that Andy was both online quite young and engaging in sockpuppetry. And further, that he was as I said before, the Doogie fucking Howser of manipulation.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
The anon bloviating about computer use in the States in 1994 is not correct. I live in the US and I was in high school in 1994. I'm from a small rural town and my family is working-class. We had a computer-- just a Commodore 64, but we had a printer and an office suite and I wrote college application essays on it. At least 3 of my friends' families had Tandys or PCs. And even in my small town (less than 10k population) the high school had several Macs for the yearbook and newspaper students.1/2
kumquatwriter kumquatwriter Said:

delwynmarch:

There is literally no way he didn’t know. People Magazine or whatever isn’t necessary proof someone’s alive when they’re in two highly publicized movies and a very well known episode of a TV show over a decade of “false” information. Especially considering one of those movies involved the death of Captain Kirk so a lot of Star Trek fans went to see it- my dad took me and my brother to see Generations just because of that, and I’m not much younger than Andy.
(emphasis mine)
1. Regarding “the anon bloviating about computer use”: I think you mean @ceirdwenfc, right? Because she’s the one pretending that her precious Andy couldn’t have had reliable computer access back then because nobody could.
2. Regarding James Doohan’s supposed death: okay, let’s make this simple, and ask IMDb. Dear IMDb, which Star Trek episodes or movies did James Doohan appear in from 1988 on?
- 1989: Star Trek V: The Final Frontier
- 1991: Star Trek VI: The Undiscovered Country
- 1992: ST: TNG, episode “Relics”
- 1994: Star Trek Generations
Okay, so that narrows it down to two possibilities:
1. Both Andy and his dad are very shitty Star Trek fans.
2. Andy lied.
Anyone who’s read my “Recruitment” post knows my position on this :P
Thank you Anon for your input :) !

delwynmarch:

I’m gonna get back to that computer history nonsense, but in the meantime, it seems to me that Andy is trying to get away with something much more important.

I mean, he posted this while we were busy telling Cfc off for rewriting computer history. Let me quote the whole thing:

We Should…

Good question. Let’s not fall for Andy’s classic obfuscation.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Not from Europe, from Latin America -- but parents had computer since 1984 (I understand that is strange) but most peers had access to computer in 1990s, and we had internet by mid 90's. Internet cafe's everywhere if you were poor by 1995. We could all use DOS or Windows. Plus, *Andy* made a website in 1997. www[.]reocities[.]com/Area51/Starship/6102/home[.]html (plus more than one email, active in usenet, writing fanfic, etc). He probably had a computer at least a year before then, or more.
kumquatwriter kumquatwriter Said:

delwynmarch:

OMG :D ! So cute! Link. Thanks for the info, Anon :) !

And yeah, so much for poor Andy growing up so far away from civilisation computers :P

Wow, I’m impressed that there’s a link I hadn’t seen before!

carlanime:

Posting to underline a couple of points:

1. Unenforceable legal threats are one of his things; unwarranted praise is another.

2. He used to claim “dissociative identity order” as his diagnosis, much as he now claims schizophrenia. He has a Hallmark Movie of the Week version of each of these,…

I was going to post the version of this letter that I got from 3 different former friends/DAYDians, just to document the changes between them. However, after running them through a document comparison, I realized that (aside from the excerpts of the Original Fauxpology, redactions of Andy’s sister’s name, and a small personal note at the top of two versions) they are literally, word for word, the same letter.

It really is a form letter. I mean, damn.